First off, some news – I’ve had some promising developments on the paper front. I spoke with a university professor at a party recently who is looking forward to seeing what comes of my Web 2.0 experiment and my work with BB. It’s been a busy couple of days, but I wanted to report on my most recent session.
When BB arrived, his appearance was disheveled. It seems he had gone out drinking with his friends and wasn’t allowed back into the co-op last night. I asked if he had given any thought to what he might do if they refused to let him return entirely. He said his friends would of course help him out, but I encouraged him to think about what meaningful work he might engage in to help him find a new life after his time of transition is complete.
We talked about how to meet people and appropriate conversation topics. He seemed to be following along and finding the experiment useful until I brought up the subject of his attitudes towards women. I asked him to pretend he saw a woman working next to him at the coop, writing a letter or cutting flowers in the garden. I told him to pretend she looked up at him and smiled. What should he say after she introduces herself? Should he shake her hand?
He got that distant look in his eyes again and said “they stay with you, don’t they? Even when they’re gone, they’re still in your head. They never leave.” I asked him what he meant. He started talking about death and how it’s a relief and how everyone deserves to die. He grew more and more agitated and only calmed down after I returned the conversation to other matters.
There is clearly much to investigate on this topic, but I need a way to do it that helps him continue to speak freely.
Slender says:
Sorry for asking what might be an obvious question, but is BB just a name for the patient?
Kestral St. Willow says:
How intriguing… perhaps it was a woman who caused him pain in his past? Mother, sister, or other prominent female figure?
Jack Alsworth says:
I wonder if it was his daughter? Or his wife? You said he felt someone had wronged him, and that he refuses to talk about his family much…
Yankee White says:
I have two thoughts on BB.
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First, in session 2 he was ‘energized’ by a courthouse demonstration. What if the authority figure that hurt him so deeply has something to do with the justice system? A corrupt lawyer or judge even.
Second, maybe some light roll-play will help BB open up, or simply presenting different scenarios. I don’t know how you professionals do it, but some simple everyday activity. Maybe he’s getting his haircut, what would he chit-chat about with the barber? Or you could roll-play as a customer at a saloon and he could be the barber cutting YOUR hair initiating the small talk with you. (I don’t suggest he really cut your hair, just roll playing
Oh nevermind, I feel silly for even mentioning the idea. I’ll leave the brainstorming to you, the real professional.
WMPractical says:
Have you considered musical therapy? Some people find it easier to express themselves through music. Maybe he’s a good singer. It wouldn’t hurt.
MindsAndMatters says:
Hey all! Thanks for the comments.
- Music and role playing therapy are both excellent ideas.
- I do think that a woman played a key part in whatever hurt him. I hope to find out more this week.
- The point about the courthouse is interesting. I hadn’t thought about that – maybe it’s not the protest itself, but the location that was helping him open up. I’ll keep that in mind.
Wysp says:
Hey, it’s me again! I’m sorry I’ve been absent–life limits my access here. The role-playing therapy might be an interesting approach.
If you could, ask him a question for me: Does the name “Julia” mean anything to him?